Soul Ties

I’ve had lots of teaching on soul ties. Up till now, I’ve been taught that soul ties are created by sexual interaction but the speaking team broadened it to include non-sexual relationships. David and Jonathan had a healthy soul tie. We have healthy soul ties to God and, if we have a good marriage, there are healthy soul ties to our spouse. But there are unhealthy soul ties and what came to mind? Pearl [name has been changed--see "My Story" and/or "Searching for Love" for more information]. I recognized that I am still tied to her. I still want her and to be with her. Really, what I want is what I perceived she gave me which she didn’t really but it felt that way. I also recognized that until I truly want to give her up, I won’t. What keeps me holding on to her, God? Is it my need for love, a legitimate need that really only you can fill and which I know in my head you are filling and which I know, at least in part in my spirit, and yet your love for me hasn’t yet dominated my horizons and every fibre of my being. I need that, God. I need to be so dominated by your love, so overwhelmed by it that I seek no other source. I don’t want to desire the water from dirty wells anymore.

The big thing with the teaching on soul ties, however, was my marriage. It is majorly unhealthy. There was so much talked about this. God designed marriage to have:
1) Complete trust on both sides of the relationship
2) Mutual respect for each other as people
3) Appreciation and encouragement of each other’s gifts and abilities
4) An uninhibited sexual relationship which is the fruit of harmony in spirit, soul and body
5) Physical care of each other and of the children
6) Joint desire to put God first in the relationship
7) Absence of domination and manipulation and control from either partner

We don’t have this.

Danielle taught that the marital soul-ties which began as godly can become perverted and broken. That is what has happened with my husband and me.

Anyway, I told Danielle, who was the one praying for me, about my husband and Pearl. She prayed regarding both and broke the ties. As she prayed about my husband, I sobbed and sobbed, even making embarassingly loud noises. Someone stood behind me, ready to catch me (if I fell over, slain in the Spirit—-which happened with some but not all as they were being prayed for and ministered to). I wonder how much he overheard. In fact, I wonder how much everyone overheard because it was quiet in the place and Danielle spoke loudly to me. At least it seemed that way. But it doesn’t matter. I want healing, not privacy.

Please heal me, God.

The next morning, the man who had stood behind me to catch me if I fell (though I had forgotten about his presence then) came to the kitchen and spoke to me about my husband so maybe he DID overhear what I was telling Danielle. Doesn’t matter. This is a man I had observed when I had visited the camp in May, a man of great spiritual discernment and power. He told me that in his minimal interaction with my husband the previous month (my husband had been at camp two weeks without me), he noticed that something is seriously wrong with him. His gaiety is a cover-up for something, but the man couldn't put his finger on what it was. I told him that we have been married for 31 years and it's never been a happy marriage. His comment was that I have been faithful (to God) and my husband has not. That's more or less the truth, though this man had no way of knowing because he knows neither of us. The man will be interceding for my husband, for which I am very grateful.

Interestingly, it was sometime during this day that God told me that it would be at this camp where our marriage will be healed. I realized that it might not be this year or it might be but not show up till months later and only in retrospect would we know by tracing it back to this camp. It was a thought I pondered on the rest of my time there.